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"...don’t tell me what you believe... tell me what you practice and tell me how those practices are making you more wise and more compassionate or capable of self transcendence and more capable of transforming the world to deal with the situations we're dealing with." - John Vervaeke

What is Dialog-OS?

It's part wordplay on the term Dialogos and part reference to a platform on which an ecology of practices operates within.

First, let's sort out what Dialogos is.

dia - through, across

logos - the principle of divine reason, divine wisdom and/or the word of 'God'. An active reational and spiritualprinciple that permeates all reality.

Does that help?

Another way to look at it is dialogos is the part (and potential) of any dialogue when we're engaging with dialectic and coming into contact with the 'deep(er) truths' of the topic or moment. In this place, there's often a sort of 'rightness' experienced in the collective flow of the dialogue. And it's often in this place, the individuals that make up the group (we) reach places or conclusions they wouldn't otherwise have been able to on their own (collective intelligence).

As for the platform aspect, this is where the OS (Operating System) part comes in. This is the foundation on which all other 'applications' (think life roles, purposes and goals) are executed upon. Some operating systems are lightweight and efficient for very specific tasks, but limited in their capabilities, lacking broad appeal. Others are highly complex and inaccessible requiring so much committment to the platform, you rarely get to utilize all their power 'in the real world'. The Dialog-OS is one of those ones that is quite accessible, allowing just about everyone to feel like they're accomplishing something very early on, however the more you use it, the more it's potential and thus, it's power (it's depth), is revealed.

That said, if you bristle at the term or 'technology' references, you could also just think of Dialgo-OS as a Dojo, the space where we gather to learn, to practice, to hone our capabilities for to aid our integration such that outside the dojo, we are ready to flow with what confronts and supports us on our journey through life.

For those familiar with Authentic Relating, consider AR as one of the core components that made up the OS. However, in this case, we're including beyond the subjective, Dialog-OS also brings in collective intelligence and sense-making and our focus is not only on our own personal growth but how our personal growth can contribute to seeing sustainable systemic change come to light.

What is The Kernel?

The name references that every operating system has a core, persistent, input/output processing component called, the Kernel. This component basically has control over everything in the system. As you might imagine, how well the kernel is built impacts the performance of just about everything you do within an operating system.

Therefore, The Kernel is what we decided to name our new 13-week highly-experiential course that explores an ecology of, what we currently believe are the core practices that will lead to our experience of having a stable and capable central, always on, input/output control system.

It's intention is to help us expand our capacities through relational and sensemaking dialog so that we may improve our chances in creating more of what we want to see in the world for others and ourselves.

We see the elements presented in this course as offering foundational tools to afford effective responses to the most complex problems our societies are experiencing today (i.e. "The Meta-Crisis").

Underlying Concepts

So to understand some more of the theory that underpins this course and it's curriculum, let's start with the most foundational theory that has informed our public offerings for several years now. This theory is the 3-part transformation structure of 'wholeness' proposed by Ken Wilber and Dustin DiPerna in their "Toward a Deliberately Developmental Civilization” whitepaper. The summary of which suggests something that is whole has to integrate structures of consciousness, states of consciousness and the shadow. We see this structure as very convergent with ideas John Vervaeke (A cognitive scientist and professor from the University of Toronto) offers in his "Awakening from the Meaning Crisis" YouTube lecture series, which suggests a large reason for why we are experiencing our current meaning crisis, is due to the myopia towards the scientific method (structures) and the growing exclusion/indifference to spirituality (states). As such it's expressed throughout the 50 episode series, a reintegration of science and spirituality, with an emphasis on the participatory, might afford us a way through this meaning crisis.

Thus in this course, we will offer structures (theory) and engage in states (through practices/serious play) with a keen eye on the shadow in an attempt to support us to bring ourselves and humanity through to the next stage of development.

A stage that is beyond the culture wars and into renewed connection to meaning and shared purpose.

So it's through this exploration, and our intention, to be witness to moments of deep presence, intimacy, truth and flow (Dia-logos) that suggest we are in right-relationship with each other and reality.

  • ** NOTE: COHORT #1 IS NOW FULL - PLEASE SEE BELOW FOR COHORT #2 OPTION ** - We'll meet as a group, online, via Zoom, every Tuesday from 6:30p to 8:30p Eastern Time starting January 18th, 2022 and closing on April 12th (please note: the first session end time is 9:00pm). We have a 5-minute start buffer for people to arrive and sort any immediate tech issues before starting the session at 6:35. The course is led by Taylor Barratt (Emergent Developmental Concepts) and Kasia Zaraski (T-Group/Lab/ART Circling Leader). John Vervaeke will also join us later in the course to co-lead a session!

  • Cohort 2 would meet Sunday's, 8:00am to 10:00am (2p - 4p Central European Time) starting January 23rd and closing on April 17th. Same facilitation line-up.

  • Sessions often include a balance between concepts and theory, followed by experiential engagement/practice. While you might want to take notes, we are not going to dive so deeply into the theory that anyone should persistently feel lost or confused. It's our hope that through presenting the concepts and engaging with them, individual participants might be motivated to further explore certain topics in between sessions.

  • After the 7th session, there will be about 60-70 minutes of peer-organized partner-practice per week and after a couple sessions some short (10-20min) homework tasks.

  • The fee for this course is $500CAD. (Once accepted as a participant, payment can be made via Interac EMT, or through PayPal.)

  • We expect everyone to attend all the sessions they can, and miss the ones they have to, however due to the progressive nature of the course, if you know you can not make more than 2 of the 12 sessions, we ask you don’t apply. When someone is absent, the ‘teaching’ portions of the sessions will be recorded and provided to those who could not make the session. Any partner work or homework tied to that session is expected to be completed.

  • While we will canvas for some agreements within the group at the first session, we do expect your fair attention and engagement with the material and practices. This course is a collective process.

Is This Course For You?

While we take a beginners approach at the outset, we do so to establish some common experiences and language as we progressively layer on more complexity. We did not structure it this way to be broadly accessible to the general public (though that is a future goal). Therefore we expect an ideal participant is likely someone who has familiarity or understanding of some, if not most, of the concepts introduced in the course description above.

For example, if you know what the 'meta-crisis' is, you'll probably find this course helpful.

We think it's also fair to say having an underlying love of learning/growing and having an open mind to new ideas is crucial to experiencing the totality of what the course can offer you. If you're frequently overworked, ill, taking 2 or more other courses or prone to trigger or dissociation, chances are it will be difficult for you to fully engage in the course in it's present format.

In addition, if you're directly familiar with Taylor's past work and offerings and/or Authentic Relating Toronto, you might have some expectations on how this course will play out. And we can say that this course is different in many key ways than past offerings, but what it really boils down to is a flip. In many AR/Circling environments, we tend to highly privilege authentic 'being' over procedural 'doing'. Due to the intention for the course and sessions we will be prioritizing our 'doing' (in the form of Serious Play). Understanding, for the course as a whole, we will have to 'do' for a while, before what we're doing can be integrated into our 'being'.

Next Steps

Due to the structure of this course and some of the practices, we have only 10 participant spots available in each cohort. To help ensure adequate alignment between participant expectations and course intention, all participants have to go through an application process by filling out a form (est 5-10mins to complete).

This application form for both Cohort's is available here (

The event listing for Cohort 1 (on meetup) is available here (

The event listing for Cohort 2 - CET Friendly Schedule (on meetup) is available here (

For some applicants we may want to schedule a 20minute interactive-call with you to further gauge fit. Please note in your application if you want to request such a call with us in case you yourself are left with questions to check for a fit on your end as well.

If you have any questions, please send myself or Kasia Zaraski a DM/PM through Meetup or Facebook, or fire off an email to taylor(at)

Dialog-OS: Kernel Discussion Video Playlist

In this 5-part video series, Kasia plays the role of interviewer for us to launch into a discussion about the course.

On January 4th, 2022, John Vervaeke and I had a discussion about the 'nature and structure' of the course and 'it's personal and cultural significance.'


"There is no [static] self that will survive a real conversation." - David Whyte

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